I’m sure you’ve heard by now that Patrick Swayze has begun his final role in the sequel to Ghost. While I was never a huge Swayze fan, you can’t help but laugh at the thought of his SNL skit with Chris Farley. So last night, when I heard the news I went searching for that clip from SNL, but couldn’t find it unedited. So my next thought was to post a clip from Roadhouse. What happened next, I will never forget.

It was eight short years ago, and I lost someone very close to me inexplicably to a rare disease, and in a very short time. This was one of those deaths where you get the news and you’re not even sad or angry, you’re just in shock. You’re numb.

Over the course of the next week, I would be consoled by hundreds of friends and family members, and to be honest I don’t remember a lot of what was going on because it all happened so quickly, and I was emotionally and physically exhausted.

But one thing I remember, was my friend’s father saying…

For whatever reason, those words struck a cord with me. So much so that over the past 8 years, I’ve said those same words to other people who have lost someone close to them. Hell, I said that exact sentence to someone two weeks ago after their best friend passed away.

So last night, while searching for a clip of Patrick Swayze in Roadhouse, I stumbled upon this…

Mother fucker. The line that my friend’s father used, which I then stole and used for 8 years was actually a line from Roadhouse. All these years I thought I was giving my mourning friends something profound to ponder, and in reality I was giving them the Tao of Dawson.

Rest in peace Swayze, and if you’re family reads this I just want to let them know that it will get worse, before it gets better.